From the accomplished psychological professional and expert of social etiquette, celebrated blogger and social influencer, counselor and mentor, author and essayist Virginia Leung: [An Original Work] of the most captivating, awe-inspiring writing.
Did you know that personality and attitude are the two deciding aspects of your fate?
Be crowned with a halo now as I share my top tips for improving your mentality, analytical skills, perspective, mindset, communication, Adversity Quotient, social etiquette- and putting them all into practice!
Epigraph
For the state of things to change for the better,
You must first change yourself for the better;
For the state of things to improve even more,
You must always be improving yourself even more!
Preface
Blind spots in our thinking, a lack of emotional intelligence or poor social skills- various problems, like these, admittedly drive away many opportunities. At times, one wonders whether these are foregone conclusions- or are they a result of inability and throwing in the towel way too early?
Emotions have an immense impact on our mood and performance, and our attitude and manner of dealing with things and people determine if opportunities come our way. Problems stem from our thoughts, and affect our behaviour. Outstanding social skills allow you to take to interpersonal relationships like a duck to water. This book will help you learn more about yourself- how to adjust your emotions and way of thinking, how to improve your communication skills, how to build the best social and romantic relationships, and how to enrich and cultivate your manner and inner substance. If you are determined to be a better- even the best- version of yourself, take a page from this book. If you can apply it well to daily life and make the most of it, you will surely be able to improve yourself!
Virginia Leung
- Celebrated blogger, counselor, mentor and essayist
- Expert in the fields of consulting psychology and social etiquette
- Founder of Virginia’s Social Etiquette, EQ and Counseling Centre
Being a better version of yourself is certainly a prerequisite for personal excellence. It enhances your competitiveness and thus naturally leads to many more opportunities. I really appreciate the book "How to Be The Best Version of Yourself. It gives the reader a positive mindset, improves judgment and discernment, provokes deep reflection, and teaches excellent interpersonal skills! I am highly impressed by the author, Ms. Virginia Leung, her skill and knowledge.
There is a saying that goes like this:
There are only two ways to change your destiny in life,
One is your attitude towards life, the other is a book that has been read.The right time to make a change is always now.
The book "How to be a best version of yourself?" is to help readers adjust their perspective and behavior, strengthen their communication skills, and let you become an optimistic and fulfilling individual and become a better version of yourself!
“Being polite doesn’t cost a penny!” goes the saying. Humans are social creatures, and modern society is even more socially inseparable; to have connections is to have opportunities.
If a person wears better clothes but does not know how to be polite, he cannot hide the fact that he is poorly educated. The smartest person, the most educated, the most wealthy, the most competent, and the most impolite will bring shame to himself and his family, and this is proof of his lack of sophistication. Etiquette is the embodiment of culture; it is a way of communicating, of learning an unpronounced language that not only expresses oneself, but also allows others to understand oneself in the best possible way, and greatly boosts self-confidence and helps build excellent interpersonal relationships. Learning etiquette and behaving in a manner that feels appropriate and decent will bring out your charm and make a good impression on others, both at work and in life!
We need to understand the true nature of the problem before we can talk about how to deal with psychological barriers. Ms. Virginia Leung, with her expertise in psychological counseling and therapy, has assisted people of different backgrounds in dealing with various emotional problems, changing their lives, helping them to face their problems positively and productively, and helping them to overcome their difficulties strategically and step by step, as well as teaching them communication and social skills from the perspective of psychology to enhance manners, cultivation and substance. It also teaches communication and social skills from a psychological perspective to increase etiquette, discipline, and substance.
This book is a compilation of experiences, and I recommend it to all readers for their benefit.
Ms. Virginia Leung is an excellent psychology and etiquette expert. She specializes in interactive teaching and counseling, inspiring thinking, using real-life examples to train analytical skills, and guiding the establishment of correct values and positive thinking in the process.
Ms. Virginia Leung has a wealth of knowledge and experience in spiritual growth and interpersonal relationships, and she is never shy about sharing it with others.
In this day and age, it is very difficult not to follow the trend and not to be affected by negative emotions. Ms. Y. Leung shared in this book how to improve judgment and adjust thought patterns to maximize one's positive energy. The book also introduces basic social etiquette standards, which will help us face challenges in different stages of life.
I believe that readers will gain insight and benefit from reading this book, which will lead to a better future.
Today, to live a better life, we must learn to stay positive and grind through unfavorable situations. We should strive to enhance interpersonal skills, master the art of getting along with others, and have a mindset for constant self-improvement and raised expectations.
I highly recommend Ms. Virginia Leung Yui Ying’s book “How to Transform into a Best Version of Yourself”. It takes an unprecedented approach, motivating you to unlock your full potential in this competitive world by exploring crucial topics that often get neglected.
This book is truly influential and inspirational! A book, or an opportunity to invest in yourself, that you certainly should not turn down.
- 目錄
- Emotions | Emotional Intelligence - Being kind to yourself is processing episodes instead of suppressing them.
- 19 Separate Emotion from Incident
- 21 Adversity Quotient (AQ)
- 23 How to Process Episodes
- 25 No Match for an Emotionally Intelligent Person
- 27 Don’t Mistreat Yourself
- 29 A Balanced Life
- 31 The State of Urban Life
- 33 Learning Acceptance 35 Be The Master of Your Emotions
- 37 Why Punish Yourself with Unhappiness?
- 39 Getting Angry Is Not Going to Help Anything
- 41 Let Go of Your Stubbornness
- 43 The Lethality of Words
- 45 Avoidance and Relief
- 47 Change Your Mood and Perspective
- 49 Learn to Let Go
- 51 Can’t Let Go
- 53 The Fool and The Wise
- 55 The Source of Unhappiness
- 57 Reasons to Improve Yourself
- 59 The Wisdom of Not Letting It Get To You
- Thoughts | Know yourself - Evaluate yourself: blind spots in your thinking, values and perspective on life!
- 63 Do you know yourself?
- 65 How to help yourself relax
- 67 What you covet is what you lack
- 69 You cannot wake someone pretending to sleep
- 71 There are no standards for success and happiness
- 73 Inevitable characters in your life
- 75 Wave goodbye to bad habits
- 77 Be the hero of a motivational movie
- 79 Have you put in your best?
- 81 The gap in thinking
- 83 Your manner of expression reflects your personality
- 85 Aura is the only thing that doesn’t change
- 87 Rediscover yourself
- 89 All the world’s a stage
- 91 Critique yourself
- 93 Who do you love the most? Yourself or others?
- 95 True self-confidence
- 97 There is no perfection
- 99 Let your mind progress
- 101 The inner metric
- 103 Rating yourself
- 105 Opportunities are for those who are well-prepared
- Self-Enrichment | Personality and attitude decide your fate (Improving interpersonal relationships, social gatherings, business etiquette, social etiquette, communication skills)
- 109 Interpersonal relationships (A guide to friendships)
- 111 Interpersonal relationships (Outcome is more important than Philosophy)
- 113 Social etiquette (First impressions)
- 115 Social etiquette (What are cultivated manners, inner substance and aura?)
- 117 Social etiquette (The etiquette of formal gatherings)
- 119 Basic table etiquette (Demonstration of Chinese table etiquette)
- 121 Table etiquette (Demonstration of Western table etiquette)
- 123 Communication skills (Making new friends)
- 125 Communication skills (Appropriate topics and taboos)
- 127 Communication skills (Using your words wisely 1)
- 129 Communication skills (Using your words wisely 2)
- 131 Communication skills (Psychological techniques- methods of criticism)
- 133 Treating Clients
- 135 Communication skills (Positive Language)
- 137 Friends
- 139 How to be the best version of yourself
- 141 Blind spots in thinking
- 143 A woman who is gentle yet firm
- 145 Personal qualities
- 147 Making others happy is also a responsibility
- 149 Discernment checklist
- 151 Challenge yourself
- 153 Life is Practice
- 155 Life values
- 157 A woman who has expectations of herself
- 159 Same conditions, different outcomes
- 161 The strongest asset of men and women
- 163 Catching the wisdom of others
- 165 The power of gentleness
- 167 Cultivating an aura
- 169 Well-liked humour is graceful
- 171 How much of your life are you responsible for?
- Relationships | Where shall my heart rest - Making those who understand stay, or making yourself impossible to leave
- 175 Being complementary to each other- being content
- 177 Rebooting your mind
- 179 Superficial value
- 181 How to know if you’re treating someone well enough
- 183 The mystery of women
- 185 Irksome relationship problems
- 187 Someone who cares and hurts for you
- 189 Thawing his heart
- 191 Give me back my soul
- 193 On spending
- 195 Capturing and harnessing his heart
- 197 Treasuring yourself
- 199 Three roles in relationships
- 201 The real winner in love
- 203 Relationships of yesterday
- 205 A life of beauty is worth more than outer beauty
- 207 Are you deserving of love from those around you?
- 209 Crushes
- 211 Being a confident lover
- 213 To the brokenhearted
- 215 A caring lover
- 217 Mind games
- 219 Can’t let go of you
- 221 Avoidance in relationships
- 223 Making yourself
- 226 Advertisements
- 227 Copyright Statement/ Notice/ Disclaimer
- 231 Epilogue
- Emotions | Emotional Intelligence - Being kind to yourself is processing episodes instead of suppressing them.